As a child grows up, he will express himself in the form of self-righteousness, and he does not want to be denied by others. Parents often think that this is the child's performance. But behind the subtext, parents must know... Children always love to talk, how to say do not listen. In fact, at this time, parental anxiety is understandable. We all hope to cultivate good children who are obedient, not "little devils." But behind the child's love for love, there are such subtexts that need you to know. Subtext 1: "I grew up!" When parents frequently resist parents' demands, parents should feel relieved. why? Because this is precisely the way children demonstrate their growth. Think about it, we can't raise a child who never grows up. When the child has his own opinion, it reminds parents that they should treat him in a different way. At this time, my parents wouldn't want to organize everything for their children. Instead, they would take consultations to learn more about their children's ideas and treat them as a little adult! Subtext 2: "Mom and Dad, you must set an example!" Maybe you will experience something like this: When watching TV with your child at night, suddenly drive your child away: "It's 9 o'clock, go to sleep!" But the child will not understand - "Why Mom and Dad can watch TV, I Will you go to bed? "As time passed, the child could easily talk back. In fact, the correct approach should be that since mom and dad are good examples of children, they must set an example. If you want your children to sleep, you should turn off your TV. If you want children to be partial to the eclipse, you can't pick and choose oneself. If you want to avoid swearing, you should put an end to swearing.... Parents only have to correct these shortcomings. In order to allow children to recognize and accept the parents' request. Subtext 3: "Where is your bottom line?" Children want to get what they like, may take a cry, talk back and mom and dad stalemate. At this time, Mom and Dad must understand that this is the bottom line that children are testing. When you easily compromise, your child will have to get in and give you more headaches. The correct approach is to express your bottom line so that your child can understand that it will not work. There is no second possibility. Hong Kong star Cecilia Cheung has two very obedient sons. Once she talked about her childcare concept in a program. Every time he goes shopping, no matter how many toys the two sons choose, she can only let them decide to buy only one, and the two share it. Moreover, no matter how the child cries, she will not compromise. Slowly, even if the child really wanted to buy more toys, he would be clear: "Don't do stupid things, Mom wouldn't promise." This just shows that when the child finds no way to break with noisy and shouting When the adult's bottom line, he will no longer use this wrong way. Subtext 4: "Quickly pay attention to me!" If some children cannot listen to their parents, they will shout at their faces and may want to attract the attention of adults. For example, when a family member comes to visit, Mom and Dad want the child to go to the room to do homework, and the child may say “I’m going to watch TV here!†In fact, this may be the extreme behavior the child fears being ignored by the parents. At this time, Mom and Dad must understand how to appease the child's heart and tell them the reasons for doing so. Subtext 5: "My words are right!" Imagine your child yelling and refusing to wear the blue scarf you bought. The reason is that it is too ugly. Wearing it will surely be laughed at by classmates. At this time, maybe you think that the child is so small, which knows what aesthetics, or afraid of the children being frozen, and forcing children to wear scarves to school. In fact, why? When the child explicitly says "No", Mom and Dad can understand the child and say, "It turned out to be this way, but is it so cold outside, do you have a better way?" In this way, you can negotiate with your child The choice is given to the child. As long as the child does what he likes, he will be happy and you will achieve your purpose. Even if he wants to wear a jacket that you think can't match clothes at all, you have to hint at yourself. "It's okay, the kid can keep warm!" Subtext 6: "I just love it!" If the child really messes around and fucks up, this is when moms and dads must be vigilant to be too fond of children. At this time, Mom and Dad don’t hurry. Don’t talk to the children louder and more intense than they do. Stop instead. Speak in a low tone and say, “I know you are in a bad mood right now, but there is something we can say.†Or "I don't like how you talk like this. If you have any questions, you will slowly speak. I think it makes sense to listen to you naturally, okay?" When the child relaxed and nodded, he took the opportunity to touch his head and said: "It's a good boy. Come, Dad / Mom likes you the most." The child will also feel that the original Mom and Dad really do not like their own noise Nature will also slowly avoid it. It is important for moms and dads to patiently help their children improve their understanding and communicate with them, rather than fighting children. What is important in the process of communicating with children is not what you say, but what the child understands. Establishing a good parent-child relationship. The child will also understand the parent’s mentality and become a sensible child. Source: China Children's Wear Industry Network phone QQ Yangzhou Lansun Slipper Co.,Ltd , https://www.lansunslippers.com
May 04, 2023